What to Do If Your Ex Isn’t Complying with a Family Court Order in California
What to Do If Your Ex Isn’t Complying with a Family Court Order in California
When a family court issues an order—whether it involves child custody, visitation, child support, or spousal support—it carries the full weight of the law. Unfortunately, not everyone follows these legally binding directives. If your ex is refusing to comply with a court order, it can be frustrating and emotionally exhausting. At Collis Law APC, we help Californians understand their rights and take the proper legal steps to enforce court orders and protect their interests.
Common Types of Court Order Violations
Some of the most frequent violations include:
- Refusing visitation or parenting time
- Failing to pay child or spousal support
- Violating custody terms or parenting schedules
- Withholding important information about the child
Whether the violation is deliberate or due to a misunderstanding, it's important to act quickly.
Keep Detailed Records
Before taking legal action, begin documenting every instance of noncompliance. Save texts, emails, and note missed visitations or support payments. This documentation can be essential in court.
Communicate (If Safe to Do So)
In some cases, a respectful conversation or clarification might resolve the issue—especially if the violation stems from confusion or miscommunication. However, never put yourself at risk by initiating contact if your situation involves abuse or harassment.
File a Motion for Contempt
If your ex continues to violate the court order, you can file a motion for contempt with the family court. This legal action tells the court that the other party is willfully disobeying its order. If found in contempt, your ex may face penalties such as fines, wage garnishment, makeup parenting time, or even jail time in extreme cases.
Request a Modification (If Needed)
Sometimes, circumstances change. If your ex is not complying because the current order is no longer feasible, it may be time to petition the court for a modification. Courts are generally open to modifications when there is a substantial change in circumstances, such as job loss, relocation, or health issues.
Work With a California Family Law Attorney
Dealing with a noncompliant ex is emotionally draining and legally complex. At Collis Law APC, we guide clients through the enforcement process and ensure their rights and their children’s best interests remain protected. Whether you need to file for contempt or request a modification, our team is here to help you navigate the California family court system.

